Energetically, I want to explore the idea of being “born too soon.” While each birth goes the way it is meant to go, and happens when it is meant to happen, the mother and child can carry emotional trauma around the event depending upon what occurs. I believe that our…
I would like to draw some messages from the ancient ones that surround us, both the human variety and the magnificent trees of nature. I have been attracted to the beauty of trees all of my life. Perhaps I learned to appreciate trees, rather than take them for granted, because…
Let’s take a look at what happens when anger is suppressed or carried down transgenerationally through a family system. Sources of Anger Anger may be the result of feelings of injustice, unfairness, wrongdoing, betrayal, embarrassment, or resentment. Anger that originates in frustration may simmer on the back burner over weeks,…
I woke in the night with the message that trauma is the source. I jotted that down in my journal and fell back to sleep. In the morning I read that message and I let it hang in the air. I soon realized that part of the message that was…
This post will look at the behaviour pattern of hoarding through the lens of family systems. Reality television shows have highlighted extreme situations of hoarding and it has a tendency to desensitise us to the everyday situations of hoarding that are more prevalent. Hoarding seems to have a sense of…
This blog post is about understanding life and love through the four directions of the Medicine Wheel. About fifteen years ago I was introduced to the four directions of the Medicine Wheel as it is integrated into many indigenous cultures. Since then, I have experienced the Medicine Wheel through the…
Do you struggle in your love relationships? Love relationships come in many forms. Our love relationships as adults often carry the imprint of our love relationships with our parents. Are you able to fully take in the love of your mother and your father just the way it is…
This blog post explores the topic of sexuality, sex identity, and gender identity from a systemic approach. This topic arose when an individual wanted my response to online criticisms of Bert Hellinger around the topic. So I will address the criticism that is out there in cyberspace, listen to Hellinger’s…
In this blog post, I will address the topic of incest. Rape culture and sexual assault is such a huge topic today, that I thought I would systemically address the issue of incest in the family system. Let’s look at the societal definition of incest: “Incest: sexual intercourse between persons…
Systemic healing of human beings frequently runs counter to quantitative empirical study because it takes into account that we are unique creatures. Systemic healing focuses on context. One of the limitations of scientific study is that it continually seeks commonalities to back a hypothesis. If a particular event Z occurs…
