Immigration or migration is an emotional time for everyone involved. Family systems carry the emotional wounds and trauma of immigration. Family systems pass on their unresolved emotional trauma to the living descendants to be acknowledged, accepted, addressed, and healed. We suffer consequences physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, psychologically, financially, intellectually, and…
When a twin dies many of the energetic dynamics are similar to losing any sibling to death or otherwise. Each family member is traumatized in a different way. You may consciously or unconsciously remember this sibling. Your body may feel this loss in some way as an emptiness, you may…
My last post discussed the shift in the relationship with mother when a twin dies. Let’s look at many of the potential emotional response patterns of the surviving twin. The following core fears or perceptions may be some of the ways the surviving twin emotionally responds when a twin dies. …
The subject of what happens when a twin dies has come up in conversation several times recently; so let me explore the topic. The loss of any family member to physical death is traumatic, and when that happens to be your twin, it may exponentially impact your wellbeing throughout life. …
Gaining compassion for the biological parents and their journey in life is key to the wellness of the adopted child. Gaining compassion for self is equally important. This blog series is just as important whether you experienced adoption, the foster care system, or were raised by anyone other than your…
Adoption links four family systems together in their fate and the adopted child is energetically placed in the middle. There is the biological mother and her family system, the biological father and his family system, the adoptive mother and her family system, and the adoptive father and his family system. …
The adopted child may experience unconscious, unresolved energetic emotional entanglements with their biological family system. Unless the adoption is openly emotionally processed by everyone involved, there will be individuals living the impact of this unresolved emotional suppression and trauma through struggle in some way. The individual who has been given…
Let’s explore the energetic impact of parent separation on children. When parents separate and/or divorce, children of the relationship will often find themselves unwell or unbalanced in some way shortly before and/or after the separation, or frequently later in life. There is an assumption made that emotions have been suppressed…
How do former intimate partners fit into your family system? Have you amicably separated from your former intimate partner(s) or have you left in an explosion of fireworks with revenge on your mind? The use of the term “ex” is a misnomer. The former intimate partner belongs or remains in…
Early in 2002, I wrote a university paper on the dynamics of a child born to a woman in mourning – a widow. It was a topic I knew intimately. In 1995, my partner was killed in a vehicular accident when I was six weeks pregnant. Six and a half…
